- G, Why people compare one with others? Especially why my parents are comparing with my cousin brother? He is a doctor so my father wants me to be a Doc too. How can be this possible? If everyone becomes Docs and Engg then what about the greatest paintings? poems? or any art? Does they really get satisfied by tearing all the hearts?
Mmm, seem to be a very big question. As I expressed in my older posts on analyzing the problems - one has to go to the origin to find a solution. These kind of things can be called as prejudices where one will have
prejudgements on one particular issue. This may be because of their brought up or from their younger years they might have taught like that. So we cant even blame them too. It has become their nature.
Nanda - G, they are not even comparing, Leave my parents instead even my friends or known people they are comparing me and telling others by referring as a "bad example".
Bad example? wow that's awesome
Nanda - G, this is too much. Yes as a bad example. I was studying as much as possible but i couldn't get good marks. But what can one do with good marks? In now a days marks are in the hands of the person who corrects the paper, if he/she is not in a good mood, then finish. That's all the mark will be low. It happens.
Leave that explain more about this bad example dude.
Nanda - I didn't get good marks, but i love paintings and art so i have a plan to join the fine arts coll. In this time i came saw my younger cousin brother family, she is going to do her high school exams this year. When i met them, her parents told her "See, Ananya study well or else you will getting low marks as your brother Nanda", you will not get a good college to study. So keep all those stuffs and concentrate only on studies". See these words G, she came to see me. But they are saying like this. Here I became a Bad example to her.
Some days after another friend came to me.
Jayram - G, I feeling a lot. I did business well only but due to my lack of concentration i couldn't make it out. So I thought of taking a break, recover and then join my business again. I need this because i am in lot of pressures. I can't even respond. My mind runs always. I need to calm. But these so called old people are not leaving me. One of my uncle, his son wants to start a business. When he told his dad. His Dad had told him comparing me. "Recently only Jay started a business but he couldn't do well, he closed", "How is possible for you? Even if you start you will also have to close like Jay". See the word G, "like Jay". Its paining a lot.
Bad Example. All great achievers are once a bad example, sometimes a very bad example. It has to be like that and it will be like that. Since people need some other to compare about some stuffs. Even you may have answered questions in your school or coll life, "Compare, Differentiate etc" These were asked not as a bad examples but to know the main difference between the both and understand both. But in life its not the matter of understanding it has become a matter of criticizing or hurting. Heart is like a water, if it disturbs it has to take time to settle. But people never leave a water to settle they always disturb it. Because they are disturbed. When you become a bad example you have to think why you are compared like that? Of course you have to be very happy, since you are an example to others. No matter good or bad. You are an example. People often beat others by saying those words which will break the glass in the heart. They never handle with love. You can love yourself. Since the most important person in this planet is "You". Many have been bad examples, even Einstein, Edison and many. The great artist Vincent Van Gogh, was told to stop his paintings since he had painted a started in a shape which no painter had created. People use you say him that the stars were wrong. But he told them no, not at all. Its in this shape only. That time people didn't believe, some years ago Scientists have made research and found it that stars are in the shape which he painted.
Believe this. Every person is unique and they have their own talents. We cant compare the poems of Tilopa to Thulsidas. They both are creative and more unique in their own way. We can't even compare the singing sparrow with the softly running squirrel. In the singing way sparrow has it own uniqueness and in that touching and touching not beautiful running (like love) squirrel has its own uniqueness. But we forget to observe the inner soulful beauty, we see just like that and say sparrow is not as the squirrel. So don't worry for bad example. Even people may laugh at you or by giving a bad example about you. You have to be happy since people are laughing by saying about you. You are great since there you were the reason for them to laugh. Its very difficult to make people laugh. Only great legends have made that like Charlie Chaplin, Kalaivar NSK, Nagesh, Chandrababu
1 comment:
I think there is no such thing that you called bad examples..... It is all experience. winners have some kind of experience.. who still try to win they have some other experience. both experiences are act as guide to who's is entering in to the that phase.
when parents compared their child with someone, the parents ruined own child career without knowing the thing which we are what we are doing. to become a master of anything need not to be bad examples... if Parents understand the child needs that's enough to every child to reach the sky in their chosen field. now a days we badly need parents care clinics than child care.
comments will continue.......
Regards
Mkanagaraj
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