The missing link between Life and Love

My dad had written an article on "the missing link between science and spirituality". Its a great one. So with this inspiration, here i come out with mine.. This is about "the missing link between life and love..." this is related with science and spirituality, wait wait.. don't get tensed, patience is needed in all walks of life... let me make you to understand...

Here i say Life is somewhat Science oriented, since life is experimental always, consciously or unconsciously one experiments life. Life is full of questions and the need to find the answer. But love is spiritual where love cannot be experimented or taught to others, it is an in-depth feeling. Only we can feel it, if we try to explain also no one can understand because love is difficult to explain but it is easy to understand. Love cannot be calculated, you can measure the love with any scale and give the same to other. Life can be measured, they days you lived happily, sadly, angrily etc. Every one can measure it. We need a pen and paper to analyze and write about the days in life. Life can be researched, you can learn about it from someone. Love cant be learn, its natural it is in the existence before life itself, We all have come to this world is because of love only. You think for a while and see, many won't care about life at all but they care and scream for love. In todays life people are running and missing the love in life, they work with pressures and they are not aware about the happenings inside them. I was talking to a person, he kept on talking and talking, rather than me if anyone heard him talking they will say "this man is an idiot, keeps on talking, always he is saying about his younger days and its pressures." Of course he has to throw it out. There were no one to listen to him, show him courtesy and listen to his stories. His heart have been throbbing for long days to say about his story, no one is there to listen. Due to this, since he doesn't have any guidance. He kept his struggles, pressures, stress, failures with him buried for long days, no one to share. He filled his cup completely. He became the strict person in this planet, he use to talk about perfection - he needs everything perfect, not even a chair should move without his permission and in his absence if anybody moves or alters anything in his room (like moving a chair) the very next day he will find out and shout at them. He needs perfection always. But this is the so called "perfection". How can all and everything in life be perfect? Ok lets come to the story of this so called perfectionist. Lets analyze his life, why this guy is doing like this? the point is there is no one to interact with love, but if you go and start interacting he will talk what he wants, he has his own belief systems, and his ego wouldn't allow him to come out of it. And due to the lack of gaining knowledge, he is in his younger days and sees the world through that. Some people are there, they accept the technological developments and its uses, but they wont accept the development of lifestyle. They will use iphone but they will not put a message to their wife "honey, i love you and i miss you". To their sons and daughters, they are not aware at all about their fathers. Likewise in this man's life to happened, his daughter struggled a lot to change him and make him to understand about her love and wishes to live life and love life. This didn't happen at all. She came to me and told everything about her father's strictness and others. She is need of love and she is struggling to live life. Due to her father's lack of love and strictness, this girl had also got the anger from the father. She had showed her anger by beating herself, spoiling her life without studying anything, without interacting to people because she didnt learn to interact. If you talk to her, you will also get that anger in you. So now its time to enter into her small beautiful heart and fly like a butterfly. So that her heart will blossom like a flower.

I told her a story. Dear Shoba, Once a guy learn't to swim, While he was swimming - this time he decided to go as deep as possible. He was ready with his oxygen mask and went in, on the 100th feet, he saw a man in a distant coming down without any oxygen. He got amazed "how this is possible without oxygen", he left off then. Later on the 300th, he saw him again. And again in the 500, this time he decided should catch him and ask him the secret of swimming such a depth without any life things. He went near him and caught him "Hello sir, this is Nandha, i am amazed how you came so deep without any life things? Can you please teach me the secret? Sine I am a new learner and i love to learn things in life, please teach me the secret? The other guy got irritated and told "Idiot, I am sinking please save me for god's sake". Read this carefully. Likewise only many of us, leave others by believing that they are swimming, no not at all, they are sinking. We need to save them. Now next question was thrown towards me "How to do it. Mr. G", See the anger in her words, here she thought of inserting some other horrible word but since he was talking to me, admiring my words she changed. I kept myself as positive as i can, so here i go. "Dearest Shoba, you just need to pour some love into their cup, you need to talk to them as soft as possible. Its not difficult at all, have you ever observed the statue of "Buddha" the enlightened guy, whenever you see or observe there will be a great peace or silence in our heart. Since Buddha's love is like that. Sameway if you want to change a person, just pour some love into their cup but remember you cup should be filled with love. Take this oath: First Accept Yourself, Love Yourself, Be yourself. Now you will be ready to do it. And also remember this, the knowledge cup which you gained should be cleaned and refilled always, since knowledge is vast and we have lot and lots of time to explore it. You can see a person and say about his knowledge, it always hidden like saraswathi river. It is said that the joining point of the two rivers - ganga and yamuna is saraswathi. You cant see it, since it is hidden. And so the knowledge is hidden. So update your knowledge, learn as much as possible. Have a great faith in you and patience to learn and explore things. Now you can meet you dad and give him a hug or ly down in his lap, pour your love or anyother feelings, Make him to believe that you are there for him. Thank him first for bringing you to this marvellous planet and exploring great things in life. Thank him. Now there will be a enormous change in his activities, he will feel that he had missed his life, wasting round the clock beating himself and showing the anger to you. Pour your love to him. Automatically his cup will be filled with love. There is a saying in tamil "Karaipar karaithaal kallum karaiyum" That is, Even we can dissolve stones. And one of my favorite for patience by the lyricst "Vairamuthu" "Thaneerai kooda salladaiel allalam, pani katti agum varai kaathiru" "You can filter even water, you need to wait until it becomes a snow". So just try to keep these things in mind. You can BE THE CHANGE!!!!

Dear friends, hope you might have sensed the missing link between life and love, life needs love to live life. And love needs life. Both are the most important thing in this world, one cannot exists without the other. Show love as much as you can. So that the whole world will be with love and your life will also be filled with love and you will start to live life without the tensions, pressures, distress etc...!! Do the best!

Remember: I have mentioned the word "love", here i come to say "beyond the word love", since we need to depend on the words which the language as got. But here i mean "beyond the word love", we cant explain about it. You have to feel it.!!!

Accept Yourself.....

"Accept yourself as you are. And that is the most difficult thing in the world, because it goes against your training, education, your culture. From the very beginning you have been told how you should be. Nobody has ever told you that you are good as you are

Dont be obsessed with yourself -- but a natural self-love is a must, a basic phenomenon. Only then out of it can you love somebody else. Accept yourself, love yourself.

Nobody else has ever been like you and nobody else will ever be like you; you are simply unique, incomparable. Accept this, love this, celebrate this -- and in that very celebration you will start seeing the uniqueness of the others, the incomparable beauty of the others. Love is possible only when there is a deep acceptance of oneself, the other, the world. Acceptance creates the milieu in which love grows, the soil in which love blooms." - Ocean

Competition

There is no need of competition with anybody. 

You are yourself, 

and as you are, 

you are perfectly good. 

Accept yourself.

Maturity.....

"Maturity" - from my childhood days, whatsoever i try to do people use to stop those things and say "You are not that much matured, So wait for the maturity." Till now people are like that expressing other people to become mature. Later I thought of going into a deep research to reveal the mystery "Maturity", is it a special thing or destination where anyone can travel and go there? Or it is biological or psychological or what it is? Psychically one can see the maturity but is it the right to say that this is mature? After a lot of research (yes around more than 15 years), I found this which i am sharing with you, it not just a story to be read. I is a beyond a story that has to be perceived in a different way. Should try to see things in a different way. This has been taken from the ocean and given to you, if you want to know this, you have to mix in the ocean. Come , jump into it.

I have read....

A thief entered a mystic's hut. It was full moon night, and by mistake he had entered; otherwise, what can you find in a mystic's house? The thief was looking and was amazed that there was nothing- and then suddenly he saw a man who was coming with a candle in his hand. The man said, "What are you looking for in the dark? Why did you not wake me up? I was just sleeping near the front door, and I could have showed you the whole house." And he looked so simple and so innocent, as if he could not conceive that anybody could be a thief.

In the face of such simplicity and innocence the thief said, "Perhaps you do not know that I am a thief." The mystic said, "That doesn't matter, everybody has to be someone. The point is that I have been in the house for thirty years and i have not found anything, so let us search together! And if we can find something we can be partners. I have not found anything in this house-it is just empty." The thief was a little afraid the man seems to be strange! Either he is mad or...who knows what kind of man he is? He wanted to escape, and besides he had brought things from two other houses that he had left outside the house.

The mystic had only one blanket-that was all that he had- and it was a cold night, so he told that thief, "Don't leave in the way, don't insult me this way; otherwise I will never be able to forgive myself, that a poor man came to my house in the middle of the night and had to go empty-handed. Just take this blanket. And it will be good-outside it is so cold. I am inside the house it is warmer here.

He covered the thief with his blanket. the thief was just losing his mind! He said, "What are you doing? I am a thief!"

The mystic said, "That does not matter. In this world everybody, everybody has to be somebody, has to do something. You may be stealing, that doesn't matter-a profession is a profession. Just do it well, with all my blessings, Do it perfectly, don't be caught; otherwise you will be in trouble."

The thief said, "You are strange. You are naked, and you don't have anything...."

The mystic said, Don't be worried, because I am coming with you! Only the blanket was keeping me in this house, otherwise in this house there is nothing-and the blanket I have given to you. I am coming with you-we will live together! And you seem to have many things; it is a good partnership. I have given my all to you, you can give  me a little bit-that will be right.The thief could not believe it. He just wanted to escape from that place and from that man. He said, "No, I cannot take you with me. I have my wife, I have my children. And my neighbors, what will they say if i bring a naked man to my house....?"

The mystic said, "That's right. I will not put you in any embarrassing situation. So you can go, I will remain in this house." And as the thief was going, the mystic shouted, "Hey! Come back!" The thief had never heard such a strong voice; it went just like a knife. He had to come back. The mystic said,"Learn some ways of courtesy. I have given you the blanket and you have not even thanked me. So first, thank me-it will help you a long way. Second, going out.... you opened the door when you came in-close the door! Can't you see the night is so cold, and cant you  see that i have given you the blanket and I am naked? Your being a thief is okay; but as far as manners are concerned, I am a difficult man. I cannot tolerate this kind of behavior. Say thank you!"

The thief had to say. "Thank you, sir," and he closed the door and escaped. He could not believe what happened! He could not sleep the whole night and for the next three days. Again and again he remembered... he had never heard such a strong voice, such power.

And the man had nothing!

He inquired the next day and he found out that this man was a great master. He had not done well-it was absolutely ugly to go that poor man, he had nothing. But he was a great Master.

The thief said, "That i can understand myself-he is a very strange kind of man. In my whole life I have been coming in contact with different kinds of people, from the poorest to the richest, but never..... even remembering him, a shivering goes through my body.

When he called me back I could not run away. I was absolutely free, I could have taken the things and run away but I could not. There was something in his voice that pulled me back."

After a few months the thief was caught, and in the court the magistrate asked him, "Can you name a person who knows you in this vicinity?"

He said, "Yes, one person knows me," and he named the Master.

The magistrate said, "That's enough-call the Master. His testimony is worth that of ten thousand people. What he says about you will be enough to give judgment."

The magistrate asked the Master, "Do you know this man?" He said, "Know him? We are partners! He is my friend, he even visited me one night in the middle of the night. It was so cold that I gave him my blanket. He is using it, you can see. That blanket is famous all over the country; everybody knows it is mine." The magistrate said, "He is your friend? And does he steal?"

The Master said. "Never! He can never steal. He is such a gentleman that when I gave him the blanket he said to me, 'Thank you, sir.' When he went out the house, he silently closed the door. He is polite, nice fellow." The magistrate said, "If you say so, then all the testimonies of the witnesses who have said that he is a thief are canceled. He is freed." The mystic went out and the thief followed him. The mystic said, "What are you doing? Why are you coming with me?"

He said, "Now I can never leave you. You have called me your friend, you have called me your partner. Nobody has ever given me any respect. You are the first person who has said that I am a gentleman, a nice person. I am going to sit at your feet and learn how to be like you. From where have you got this "maturity", this power, this strength, this seeing of things in a totally different way?"

The mystic replied, "Do you know that night how bad I felt? You had gone-it was so could without a blanket that sleep was not possible. I was just sitting by the window watching the full moon, and I wrote a poem: 'If I were rich enough I would have given this perfect moon to that poor fellow, who had come in the dark to search for something in a poor man's house. I would have given the moon if I had been rich enough, but I am poor myself.' I will show you the poem, come with me.

"I wept that night, that thieves should learn a few things. At least they should inform a day or two ahead when they come to a man like me so we can arrange something, so they don't have to go empty-handed. And it is good that you remembered me in the court; otherwise those fellows are dangerous, they might have mistreated you. I offered that very night to come with you and be partners with you, but you refused. Now you want to come with me! There is no problem, you can come; whatever I have I will share with you.

But it is not material, it is something invisible."

The thief said, "That I can feel-it is something invisible. But you have saved my life, and now my life is yours. Make whatever you want to make of it, I have been simply wasting it. Seeing you, looking in your eyes, one thing is certain-that you can transform me. I have fallen in love from that very night."

Maturity is a spiritual phenomenon.

It is very difficult to become this mature but I am trying to, yes I have started. I am the disciple to this mystic........

Such a small LIFE

 

With such a small life, 

with such a small energy source, 

it is simply stupid to waste it in sadness, in anger, in hatred, in jealousy. 

Use it in love, use it in some creative act, use it in friendship, use it in meditation: 

Do something with it which takes you higher. 

And the higher you go, the more energy sources become available to you. 

At the highest point of consciousness, 

you are almost a god.

Words from the ocean - Experience

 

 

 

Experience life in all possible ways — 

good-bad, bitter-sweet, dark-light, summer-winter. 

Experience all the dualities. 

Don´t be afraid of experience, 

because the more experience you have, 

the more mature you become.

Words from the ocean - Love

 

 

 

"Everybody has been a child, and everybody has the same urge to get love; and nobody is born in any other way. So all are asking, "Give us love" and there is nobody to give, because the other person is also brought up in the same way. So one has to be alert and aware that just an incident of birth should not remain a constant prevailing state of your mind. Rather than asking, "Give me love," start giving love. Forget about getting, simply give; and I guarantee you, you will get much."

Words from the ocean - Life!!!!

Life is a verb. 
Life is not a noun,
it is really "living" not "life." 
It is not love, it is loving. 
It is not relationship, it is relating. 
It is not a song, it is singing. 
It is not a dance, it is dancing. 
See the difference, 
savor the difference.

Words from the ocean

"Looking at a sunset, just for a second you forget your separateness: you are the sunset. That is the moment when you feel the beauty of it. But the moment you say that it is a beautiful sunset, you are no longer feeling it; you have come back to your separate, enclosed entity of the ego. Now the mind is speaking. And this is one of the mysteries, that the mind can speak, and knows nothing; and the heart knows everything, and cannot speak."

The most precious moments in Life - ultimate madness

There was a moment in my life, unexpected one. It was like Michelangelo painting, Tilopa composing his poem, MJ singing his "you are not alone", MLTR singing "u took my heart  away", Indian maestros AR Rahman composing soulful music, Ilayaraja composing a bringing out number of melody, more than all, it was like a new born child laughing. Yes, the laugh will be for a moment but that will stay in for years. Have you ever felt any of these at a same time? Today was the day which will never be forgotten in my life. If i leave this planet, these memories will be there in the cosmos and will be recycled in some other way. I know these moment will be over soon, since these are those happiest moment where time will show his e-g-o, it will fly like an airplane so fast. He did his work correctly today(always he does), time is a stone i guess, not even listening my words. Let it be like that, lets make a good sculpture out of it. Good.

Surprises - today  i found the real meaning.  It happened today. The moment when i saw them, we ran to our pasts, i saw their eyes and they saw mine, we all traveled to our younger days where we played together, ate together, ran together, those happiest moments stay "still" in life. 

I thought today morning - if i meet my childhood friends will they remember the moments? I concluded -  boys will keep everything in them but what about girls? they will forget the moments/memories, since they adopt to new situations easily. In this so fast moving world, they might forget the precious moments, if they meet me, i will have a wall in between and they will also have a wall and we would interact so formally. And i don't like this word "formal", since that will make a person to think in logics, life has to be lived without logic then only life will be like a poem. Okay lets come back-they will surely forget, so i planned to do a research on female psychology "why they forget easily?" But all my conclusions where wrong! first time! what to do? i am a small child who learns always, so i love to make mistakes so that i can learn from it. 

Relatives - In India it is more important. Even i have these so called relatives who use to talk so formally if they meet. From my younger days i was the loneliest person in this planet, i use to feel everything in me alone, i talk to myself a lot, i interact with myself . Since i grew alone, since the people whom i loved the most where not with me, Obviously, they are in my heart always but physically they are around more 6000miles away. No contacts, not even a message. I use to think about them and feel that i am missing them a lot. If these people where with me then i might have changed, my life would haven so normal , no abnormality at all . I know the life which we expect will not come(it will take its own time to come), Even now its not a problem, i believe if one gets more pains in life, then he is that guy who is going to change the entire world, he will make some difference. It will happen and it had happened. My dad's friends use to visit our home often, they are my lovable person, the moments with them are the happiest for that tiny heart. Yes, they show care and love. A tiny heart needs that. Other than that what else it needs? These moments vanished suddenly I was left alone in a rustic rotten leafy forest for years, no green trees, no breeze, only kisses from the sun. Can't bare but i expected to go back to those precious moments. It never happened. Changes happen unconsciously. And it happened today. Moments are back, full of green trees, breeze that touches my soul, love from the above sky pouring to the earth and more than all those moments are back. I became a real small child and laughing inside me. The moment i saw them, they closed their mouth in surprise WOWWOWOWO!!!!!!! I went near them, they recognized me yaar... See another WOWOWOWOWO!!!!! moment, first time in my life words was stuck, Michealangelo stopped his painting, Tilopa stopped his poem, MJ and others stopped composing music, the whole world was silent. You know why? This is the surprise! I met them, they remember the days we played and ate together. They felt the happiness in their soul, i too felt it. Girls change but they keep the love and moments of happiness with them. I discovered today. They are the greatest person in this planet, without them one can't exist they are equal to mother nature, that's why even nature is refered as "her". We ran to the younger days, they are surprised to see me in this stage. They are Sudha and Nisha, o sorry Sudha is elder than me it seems so i have to call her AKKA (sister), Sudha akka and Nisha. Nisha has changed in her looks but she is an admirer of nature and art and even sudha akka too, she is a lover of art, she is going to perform her Bharathanatyam (one of the greatest and ultimate Indian art which comes from heart as dance), I believe that the best way to express one's feel is art.They both are admirers and lovers of nature and observer of the moments. They have come across many pains but now they are here with me, physically. Sudha akka asked my feel, i told her I feel like writing about this situation. But she didn't get my words so Nisha helped her, the words got stuck in happiness and its coming out slowly.. Wonderful experience. 

I have to tell about other family whom i adore the most, they were also here. She was surprised when I said about the moments, she asked a lot of question about me and my work. Wonderful, i didn't expect this from her too. We both have played a lot, i use to give her my toys to stop her cry, i was a great lover from my younger days itself (sometimes self boosting is needed). She is here with her husband actually, She asked me about the foods and diet i did, i expressed my view. She is a lovable girl who talks softly like a melting ice berg. I didn't expect this to happen today. In conclusion I have lots of people who love me a lot, so i have to do great things. I have a family to go sit and talk and eat and i have got a new brother his name is Jayasurya(of course he will play soon in cricket). He is so sweet, he loved my driving he slept actually in my driving. And the aunt who has my mother name hugged me when she saw me, I was surprised to get hugged with full of love and care. Love and care are always there but people forget them to observe and rejoice. If one needs it he should show, how can one recognize whether the other is loving or not? He has to express, suppression is sin but expression is to win. Show Love you will get it. I used to beat myself for the mistakes and loses i  experience emotionally but later i decided to show love to the whole world, on the whole i started to love myself. That increased my talents and i have become that somebody now.

There was one thing in me which was liked and loved by all.. Its my eyes that never changes it seems (physically it wont, but mentally they way she perceives differs).

Even though the happiest moments are not physically with me, they are inside me and i have put a pause to keep that inside me always. Yes, tears are coming of course she has to come out. Since when beautiful moments are felt she will come out. Nothing wrong in crying. Its wonderful.

Really Life is a misery and it is full of surprises and miracles. 

If we want those we have to be the surprises. Be the surprises and be the miracle...

Life consists of precious moments, observe them, seek them, be with them.

Life will throw questions and we may struggle to seek for the answers, but remember we are the answers and we are the questions. Life will change always, 

You have everything you want, You the greatest person in this planet. You are all you want. You can do anything and everything. Do the best.

I know this post will have a confusion, it will not have relative sentences, i may talk something and later i will refer something. But no problem at all, i don't want to edit the words that came. So i am leaving this post like that. Even this is a part of art. Every person is unique. Read it and enjoy it and don't forget to record your happiest moment.

Birth...Day....Birth.... Life becomes so simple!

This morning... i was remind, today is my birthday! wow! wonderful, not for the birthday, its for the reminder. Life s always evolving. In my younger days i was expecting this day to arrive. So that i can provide sweets, get new clothes, no one will scold me or beat me my teacher use to warn me "today, i wont beat you, since its your b'day", from morning to night gifts will come, wishes will come, smiles will be shown in front of my face, kisses will be given. Later my expectations became as painful moments. Since there will be no one to wish, no dresses, no sweets to give etc etc... all oppositely happened. I used to worry a lot about this situation. And i am a failure in my school days, no one will respect me, leave this respect, they wont even show love. I used to sit in the bathroom (presently thinking room) for minutes and pour my feelings as tears. She (sine tears is so beautiful as an angel) will mix with the water in the ground and flow off. With that my pain also flows.. I believe still. Even on birthday i got beatings from my teachers and will be an "out standing" student. When the teacher comes i have to go out! that's their rule. It happened, I use to be out of the class and have a ton of weight in heart. Coz they sent me out all days, that's okay no problem. But even on my birthday they sent me out. How ridiculous! cant bare. Since that was a tiny heart which expects love without a shout. If they let me in without a shout, i may have asked the doubt. This never happened in life. Birthdays become painful a lot. No wishes, no kisses, no gifts, no cares, no love. It was as empty as possible. Those days i will hear only pathos music in the background.

The age of love - changed things! was expecting her call first. She used to wish me early by 12 AM, and she use to show her possessiveness by saying "i have to wish u first so i did". Some days passed and i was unable to meet her requirements. Her expectations have to be like that, no problem at all. She has to expect some qualifications both officially and personally. She had a four year degree and a five figured salary. But me, was in a little guy who runs after clients and wanna make my company into a big corporate. This never happened so i was not that guy who met her requirements. She was my second lover who taught me about life. She said when she left "Dear, understand this! its life, it will be like this only. You have to accept it!". Recently she got married and flied abroad with her new husband who has a six figure salary and working in a big I.T. concern. I was thinking about the talks she made while leaving. That time i was angry with her and had a great pain. Now things changed. I told her itself. What you did was correct. Coz, i realized what life is, and i am a person in your family, so what you did is correct. Thanks!. I told this. She had little tears in her eyes, but she never let that out. May be an e-g-o probs. *Suddenly my mobile rang.. other side "hello dear, how are things?" a female voice...*

Now, this day has come again. They reminded me about today! my mom and dad they only did this. Then only i came to know that this was that day. It was the number again. And you all know that i am a nonbeliever of time, So i never cared about the age. When people ask i may tell them i am just the kid. That's true too, since being a baby will gain a lot of knowledge in life.Coz the baby is ready to learn always. See this life became so simple. I got as usual in the morning, read some words of my master and wrote this article and listening to songs. This is wonderful moment. 

Why one need only one day to celebrate his birth? Since every moment is new, every second is new, this moment evolves into another moment and that evolved moment becomes this moment again. But people miss to admire these precious moments in life. They need only one day to celebrate and become aware about their age and themselves. Some may feel a lot about the achievements or work they didn't do. Why is this so? Life will become simple as possible. Since life is evovling. One will not even consider the birthday, since he may be running in a path to achieve something. But that again becomes a pressure. So i believe that every moment is to celebrate, rejoice, think, admire. So lets celebrate  every moment, lets give the gift of love and care to others. We will get what we need. 

This is just an observation in one's life "on changes", i am frank in this post about the changes. Life is changing always. When a particular knowledge comes, everything in life becomes so simple. Really so simple. For example "festivals" that too diwali, we might have run for the crackers once. But now we may sit and admire those fireworks or we may say to others "this is the other day in life, what is there to burst crackers, we are wasting out money". See! and we have fought for that rotten eraser which was took from us by our friend in class. This happened. But think! will we ever fight for that eraser or pen which we lend in bank(always there are ppl still who come without a pen to fill the form, they are everywhere. Wherever there is form there are ppl, who forget to bring pen). No not at all. Since life has become so simple! 

Life is simple! Crazy life.. Admire.. Rejoice... Celebrate every moment!

 "Become more and more innocent, less knowledgeable and more childlike. Take life as fun - because that's precisely what it is!  " - ocean

* "the above posting contains real events and imaginary events too."

Bad Example

I came across a question which was asked to me by my friend "Nanda",
- G, Why people compare one with others? Especially why my parents are comparing with my cousin brother? He is a doctor so my father wants me to be a Doc too. How can be this possible? If everyone becomes Docs and Engg then what about the greatest paintings? poems? or any art? Does they really get satisfied by tearing all the hearts?

Mmm, seem to be a very big question. As I expressed in my older posts on analyzing the problems - one has to go to the origin to find a solution. These kind of things can be called as prejudices where one will have
prejudgements on one particular issue. This may be because of their brought up or from their younger years they might have taught like that. So we cant even blame them too. It has become their nature.

Nanda - G, they are not even comparing, Leave my parents instead even my friends or known people they are comparing me and telling others by referring as a "bad example".

Bad example? wow that's awesome

Nanda - G, this is too much. Yes as a bad example. I was studying as much as possible but i couldn't get good marks. But what can one do with good marks? In now a days marks are in the hands of the person who corrects the paper, if he/she is not in a good mood, then finish. That's all the mark will be low. It happens.

Leave that explain more about this bad example dude.

Nanda - I didn't get good marks, but i love paintings and art so i have a plan to join the fine arts coll. In this time i came saw my younger cousin brother family, she is going to do her high school exams this year. When i met them, her parents told her "See, Ananya study well or else you will getting low marks as your brother Nanda", you will not get a good college to study. So keep all those stuffs and concentrate only on studies". See these words G, she came to see me. But they are saying like this. Here I became a Bad example to her.

Some days after another friend came to me.

Jayram - G, I feeling a lot. I did business well only but due to my lack of concentration i couldn't make it out. So I thought of taking a break, recover and then join my business again. I need this because i am in lot of pressures. I can't even respond. My mind runs always. I need to calm. But these so called old people are not leaving me. One of my uncle, his son wants to start a business. When he told his dad. His Dad had told him comparing me. "Recently only Jay started a business but he couldn't do well, he closed", "How is possible for you? Even if you start you will also have to close like Jay". See the word G, "like Jay". Its paining a lot.

Bad Example. All great achievers are once a bad example, sometimes a very bad example. It has to be like that and it will be like that. Since people need some other to compare about some stuffs. Even you may have answered questions in your school or coll life, "Compare, Differentiate etc" These were asked not as a bad examples but to know the main difference between the both and understand both. But in life its not the matter of understanding it has become a matter of criticizing or hurting. Heart is like a water, if it disturbs it has to take time to settle. But people never leave a water to settle they always disturb it. Because they are disturbed. When you become a bad example you have to think why you are compared like that? Of course you have to be very happy, since you are an example to others. No matter good or bad. You are an example. People often beat others by saying those words which will break the glass in the heart. They never handle with love. You can love yourself. Since the most important person in this planet is "You". Many have been bad examples, even Einstein, Edison and many. The great artist Vincent Van Gogh, was told to stop his paintings since he had painted a started in a shape which no painter had created. People use you say him that the stars were wrong. But he told them no, not at all. Its in this shape only. That time people didn't believe, some years ago Scientists have made research and found it that stars are in the shape which he painted.

Believe this. Every person is unique and they have their own talents. We cant compare the poems of Tilopa to Thulsidas. They both are creative and more unique in their own way. We can't even compare the singing sparrow with the softly running squirrel. In the singing way sparrow has it own uniqueness and in that touching and touching not beautiful running (like love) squirrel has its own uniqueness. But we forget to observe the inner soulful beauty, we see just like that and say sparrow is not as the squirrel. So don't worry for bad example. Even people may laugh at you or by giving a bad example about you. You have to be happy since people are laughing by saying about you. You are great since there you were the reason for them to laugh. Its very difficult to make people laugh. Only great legends have made that like Charlie Chaplin, Kalaivar NSK, Nagesh, Chandrababu

Last Minute Madness.....

Long after words are falling from my heart, dont know why the words stopped and why they are rushing out now. Not a problem at all, let me express whatsoever falls.

Last Minute Madness - in a nut shell about this post: whatsoever you expect that will come to you or u work hard or work smart to get that particular thing (that can be anything either living or non living). Its about the process one does to get that particular thing. Its like a journey but while journeying it will be too thrilling whether you will get that or not. Even in love, whenever you want to express the true love to that girl or you want to say that you are in love deeply - you may go and be near her but you never say. Years will be running the girl will also expect that you will say the love, you will be expecting her to say her love but both never say, they are in love that's true. Then there will a time when situations get awkward and you be in the high pressure then there comes the need to express your love and her love too. While that time when you are traveling to meet her.... the road is full of traffics, sun is showering his love at its peak on you, no air at all only the heat, your vehicle petrol gets dry no petrol bunk is near, your mobile signal get busier(if u try to inform her about the lateness), another vehicle comes and kisses your vehicle, feeling thirsty no water to drink, no lovable words to cure you pressures these kinds of chain of beautiful problems one may experience. But when the time falls, everything changes. Everything opens up and clears. Now no traffic, u drove to the bunk and filled petrol, u got the signal and informed her about the lateness, you heard the lovable words from her that cured the pressures in your heart and more than all now its raining and more more than all you are near that girl and you said ur love and more more more than all she says "dear, i thought of expressing this for the past 5 years". Think about the situations! Wow at last....... This is "THE SO CALLED LIFE".

I gave an example about love but that makes everyone to understand easily. The last minute madness happens everywhere that can be while you approach a big project too which will change your entire life. People who achieved in this world - great inventors, great painters, great musicians, great actors or whom so ever it is they have achieved or they have come across this last minute madness... But ultimately you will get the thing for which you work. Its sure. The point is we should not get into pressures which makes us stressful. If we press the sures then it will become pressures. Let laugh at the last minute madness.. then we wont get into those pressures....

I am laughing now, since i exprienced and experiencing the last minute madness.... Its all in the game... Laugh at the moments which brings the last minute madness....if possible post it in your blog..